Movie focus: relationships

Lately, every movie I watch I lament or rejoice over the relationships. Sometimes I wonder can a storybook film come true. I thought about that after watching Tyler Perry’s movie I Can Do Bad All by Myself. Mister wonderful walks into her life and six months later; (my estimated guess) they marry and start a new life.

A happily ever after can come true. In June of 2009 two people at my church began dating and in October, four months later, he proposed—not quietly either. He got on his knee in front of the entire congregation on a Sunday in which the church celebrated the completion of its new edifice and was being videotaped.

So, maybe I do believe, beyond the screenwriter’s imagination, that man meets woman and they live happily ever after. Of course happily means different thing to different people and comes at the price of honesty, trust and forgiveness. Let’s not forget communication. And these elements seem to be my movie focus; whether I’m watching the film for the first time or fifth time.

Here’s a few relationships I’ve laughed, cried (not really, I’m not a crier), and mourned over.

Despite criticism of the Julie & Julia Project, I relish the movie, Julie & Julia, starring Meryl Streep and Amy Adams. I didn’t think to read the book or read the blog because I love and appreciate eating food, not cooking it; therefore reading complicated recipes under 20 minutes does not appeal to me.

However, the movie is more about relationships than about cooking. And the relationships are ripe for eating: hot and spicy. As comedian Steve Harvey says in his book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, a man’s love is to profess, provide, and protect. Both husbands did just that in the movie by supporting their spouses’ dreams.

Julia Childs (Streep) and Julie Powell (Adams) need to find fulfillment in their lives and with the loving support of their spouses they find strength within themselves as successful women and create a strong husband and wife bond that does not seem easily broken.

Another film I fancy is Maneater. This Lifetime movie is hilarious and shows how one woman learns that she doesn’t need a man or a husband to take care of her. Unfortunately Clarissa Alpert (Sarah Chalke) is a fun socialite that, yes, you guessed it, eats men… hers, and her friends. She gobbles them up based on money, status and looks. In other words, she is clueless to the meaning of relationship. By the end Clarissa discovers how real women take care of themselves and live within their means, with or without a man. I laughed and lamented.

And then there’s Waiting to Exhale, which I have seen too many times to count. However, on New Year Day, when I watched it again, I did not laugh, lament, or cry… I got angry. (OK I did laugh and mourn. The fire was my favorite scene.) Four women, who are not maneaters, try to find a good man to profess, provide and protect.

I could go on and on, with He’s Not Into You and Break Up; but I will not. Twenty ten shall find me writing, writing and revising my own novels and maybe even a screenplay (or not).

Until the next blog….relish your relationship.